I am not *enough* : the side hustle

Sep 24, 2019 | Mommy Bloggin

Take a step back. Look at your life. What do you want it to look like? What do you want to accomplish? How can you leave a legacy?

My tiniest little monster and myself.

Millennial Moms are constantly being told that we are not enough. We must do more. We must capitalize our hobbies, our lives, our loves. We must do more and push harder to make things *fair* in this world. Our joy is no longer our own. It is something that must be sold to the highest bidder, the next amazing opportunity. Heaven forbid we want to do the unthinkable – be *just* a mom.

From blogging and crafting, to boutiques and home based sales, millennial moms have been sucked into the *not enough* vortex social media has created. We are inundated with the lie that our lives are worthless without the hustle of making some money on the side.

Unfortunately, making money on the side for most moms means that we are taking the things that we are good at, that bring us joy in our quiet moments and finding a way to monetize them.

For me, the first time it happened, it started small. I was crafting for some friends that turned into custom orders and craft shows and before I knew it, I no longer had time to do the things that I wanted. But worst of all, I no longer enjoyed crafting. I got burnt out. I was SICK OF IT. So I quit.

It hurt. The one thing that consistently brought so much peace into my life – being creative and creating things – was ruined for me for 4 years. All because someone told me, “Emily, you’re really good at this – you should sell these.” *dun dun dun* (insert tears of woe)

I had this stinging guilt prodding me along to do more. I had just failed at my first business endevor and had massive guilt about letting*someone*down. But instead of resting in the moment and reviewing my choices – I was scrambling for the next big thing. I let the guilt guide me.

I felt like I had to do more. To BE more. That just simply being myself, being a mom, being a wife; wasn’t enough. Maybe you feel it, too.

It’s this weight that sits right on your heart. Stirs somewhere in your gut. Makes you feel like you need to be going 1000 miles an hour all the time. That everyday must be filled with to do lists that are a mile long and have check marks next to every item. It’s the same feeling that keeps you awake long after your family goes to bed. Cleaning. Working. Worrying. Repeat. Anything but sleeping.

It’s an easy trap to fall into. I didnt learn from that first failure. It took a few more for me to even see it. But now, I have learned how to combat it. Slowly and surely, I have learned how to quell the guilt of feeling like I’m *Not Enough.

Over the next few weeks, I want to help you combat that guilt feeling too. We are going to start today with a simple exercise that will help you answer these questions in the next few weeks.

  • What do you want your life to look like?
  • What do you want to accomplish?
  • How can you leave a legacy?

To answer these 3 questions, I want you to list your priorities. Your actual priorities IN ORDER of importance. Take sometime to think about it. Depending on where you are at in your life journey right now, your list may change…a lot. My list 4 years ago IS NOT the same as it is now. And who knows, it may change again in the next 4 years. So don’t feel bad if you end up crossing your list out and starting over a few times.

Next time, I’ll tell you what to do with your list and we will work on answering that first question. So be sure to sign up for blog post notifications so you don’t miss out on the next step!

Until next time,

EmilyB.

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